Where is A Food Reaction Most Likely?
Monday, April 28th, 2008Most parents of food allergic children have learned how to manage food allergies in the home. But what happens when your child leaves home, or when you entrust his/her care to others? Where and under whose supervision do you think an allergic reaction is most likely to occur?
- Under your supervision at a park, restaurant, or on vacation. I don’t worry so much about parks anymore. Over many years of playing at the park, we have learned some tricks. (My favorite tip: use your own picnic blanket instead of picnic tables. Or bring a vinyl tablecloth if you want to use a picnic table.) Restaurants are tough. I’ve heard some real horror stories. We stick to restaurants we’ve been to many times (and know what’s safe on the menu) - and always remind the kitchen about food allergies when ordering. For practical, smart tips to minimize the risk of food allergy reactions in restaurants, I recommend that you check out the post, “Top 8 Tips for Eating Out with Allergies” on the About.Com Food Allergy Blog. Vacations are more complicated. More on that soon. We’re headed to San Francisco in a few weeks.
- Your spouse. The post, “Do You Trust Your Husband” in the blog, Every Day With Food Allergies, had me rolling on the floor laughing. I’m sure many of us can relate. It took me a good four years to let go — but now that I do, it’s pretty great for everyone. I pack up safe food and they spend the day at the park, the baseball stadium, the bowling alley, or wherever else they want to go.
- Babysitters. In her post, “Leaving Your Food Allergic Kids With A Sitter,” ModernAllergyMom recently asked her readers how they manage to leave their kids with someone else. Given that I’ve only used one babysitter in 4 1/2 years — I’m not a good one to ask. But since my child and the sitter would be inside my house, which is allergen free, I could probably lighten up on this.
- Grandparents. Haven’t left her alone at their house either. Okay, so I have some control issues. But I don’t think I’m alone in this. Many parents of food allergic children have justified concerns about leaving food allergic children with grandparents — just ask Dr. Robert A. Wood.
- Friends. Birthday parties and playdates are opportune venues for food allergy attacks. As a parent, part of you feels the need to hover - but part of you wants to let your child be a kid. The first time my daughter was offered food at a friend’s house (when I wasn’t by her side) — she was 2 1/2. Instead of eating it, she ran to my side in tears to show me the offending tortilla chip. The second time a friend offered her food (milk chocolate candy made in a factory that processes nuts) - she had been better coached in how to respond and she had more experience dealing with her allergies at preschool. Without tears, she simply told her friend that she couldn’t eat the chocolate because she might be allergic to it. Atta girl! I still hover at birthday parties - can’t help myself.
- School. There are so many fronts for concern: Supervised activities (snacks, lunch, buses). Or those pesky unsupervised activities: peers innocently (or not so innocently) offering your child forbidden foods or exposing your child to allergens while not in the presence of adults. Some optimists feel that better education will reduce these threats. In the realm of supervised activities, I wholly agree. I am less convinced about the role of education in the unsupervised realm.
Realistically, a reaction could occur in any of these scenarios — and many others. But it gets tiresome not being able to trust anyone. And as she grows more mature and is better able to take ownership of her allergies — I imagine these fears will lessen. Perhaps others will take their place. Like sleep away camp, dating, and prom.
Any tips for handling any of the situations listed above? Anything I’ve left out? What do you fear most?


